11 tools to help you reach your goals & 5 types of goals to ditch!
This is the fifth post in Your Goal Setting Master Series! Each week I will take you through a segment of a powerful & strategic goal setting method, along with some examples and mindset work. All so that you can reach your goals and have your best year yet! I am so excited about this series, and after reading it, you will know exactly where to put your time, effort, heart & soul to live out your best year ever!
– Part One: The 4 Steps for Strategic Goal Setting
– Part Two: Your Personal Core Values are the Key to Setting &
Reaching Your Goals
– Part Three: How to Set Unstoppable Goals
– Part Four: 31 Days of Financial Goals to Jump Start a New Year
– Part Five: How to (Actually) Reach Your Goals (you’re here!)
– Part Six: Smart Money Goals from Mamas Who are Making it Happen
Have you ever said, “I am going to go out and immediately CRUSH my goal of world domination/solve plastic garbage crisis/potty train my ten month old/quit sugar!” and gone out and immediately done it?
Ya, me neither. *sigh*.
It doesn’t mean we’re bad people, lazy moms, or stupid. What it does mean is that we all take steps to reach our goals. Sometimes we take five steps, and sometimes that path is more like a marathon (long, slow & steady), or maybe even like a roller coaster, one with loop-de-loops or it goes through fire or even aliens attack. Who knows.
What I do know is that actually to reach your goal, you need to be like Spielberg and set the stage, get the right props, and coach the leading performers! You need the right tools for the job! In this post, I am going to walk you through the 11 essential tools that will make or break you reaching your goals!
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As I said in post one of Your Goal Setting Master Series, The Four Pregame Steps for Strategic Goal Setting, that only 8% of people actually reach their goals. Don’t let that statistic get you down, let that stat fuel the fire deep in your belly to be one of the 8%! If you want it, then you need an arsenal up your sleeve!
11 tools to help you reach your goals
Some of the tools that you need are free and some you need to pay for. Some tools are on the inside, and some you have to go out and get. Let’s take a look at how you can give yourself the best shot at being part of the 8% of people that actually reach their goals!
1. A no BS attitude
It’s time to stop lying to yourself or making excuses for your action/inaction. Stop the lying; it’s not doing you any favors! I won’t elaborate, as this tool doesn’t need to be sugar-coated, or explained in a way to make you feel better. It’s what it is, you know it and I know it.
2. A place to write your thoughts & clear your frustrations.
It’s incredible how cathartic writing is. A total brain dump of thoughts, feelings, or to-do lists frees up so much mental space. So be it a journal with prompts or a basic spiral for you to free flow your thoughts. Write. It. Out.
One of my absolute favorite journals is Lara Casey’s Powersheets, they are so beautiful and inspiring, they encourage free-flowing thought and have great prompts to help get to where you need to go! Absolutely check them out!
- From #1 New York Times bestselling author Jen Sincero
- sassy, refreshingly entertaining, and sometimes sweary quotes
- 17 month of weekly/monthly planner pages
- stickers, tear outs, pockets, it has it all
- a journal for leaving your BS behind and creating a happy life for yourself
- caution – profanity ahead 🙂
- cathartic activities and journalling to help you move past it all!
3. A way to track your progress
Your goals need to be visual to you! A basic monthly calendar printed off or something that reminds you to do what needs to be done, and then you can reward yourself with a gold star (we all loved getting a gold star in 4th grade, nothing is different now).
Using an inspirational calendar can help motivate you on your way! Combine it with some productivity stickers, or some gorgeous stickers can make it all come alive!
Bonus – a SMART Goals worksheet
Remember in the previous post, we talked about framing your goals to be SMART goals? A great way to track your progress it to use a SMART goals worksheet, the best part is that you can just make your own!
Take a piece of paper, write out your meaningful goal, then right below that label each next line S, M, A, R, T. and fill in the specifics. Come check in time, it’s a simple Yes/No as to the action taken or the outcome acheived.
4. Things that make it enjoyable
Colored pens, cute stickers, a guilty pleasure that’s good for you, luxury bath salts, or watching your favorite movie after you do your monthly budgeting session. Or put money into iTunes to get new songs for your running playlist!
5. Set your environment up for success!
If you are trying to save money, then please unsubscribe from stores emails about sales, and unfollow them on social media! Don’t put yourself in temptations’ direct line of fire! If you get fast food too often, then get some nut bars for the car, and change your driving route, so you don’t drive by the 456 drive-thrus on your way home from work!
6. One friend to call you on your BS
To help set you straight. You know who she is, the one that makes you want to be a better version of you! The friend that will come over to help you clean your garage! Pick the friend that’s honest & true!
7. A check-in routine that you won’t cancel on.
To reach your goals you need to regularly check-in! Be it a weekly check-in on a Facebook group, or you emailing yourself on how you did (yes, email yourself!) Or a coffee pit stop with a friend where you both go over your goals and talk about struggles & brainstorm new ideas on how to move past or push through!
8. A “Hell Ya” mindset!
Yup, it’s the law of attraction! You need to believe in your skills & abilities. I know whatever you are working through can be hard, or depressing, or even totally crappy. Yet, you need to understand how much power your mind has on your chance of success, and then use that to your advantage! One of the very best books for helping to motivate you and change your inner monologue is Marie Forleo’s Everything is Figuroutable! Seriously, one of the best books to read if you need some tough love to get your motivate flowing and your mindset shifted to believe in yourself!
9. Time to reflect
Don’t just jump into things blindly. Take space, think, and then move. Taking too much time can be as much of a hindrance. Set a deadline for your decision and action-taking process!
10. A vision board
I know this sounds a little out there, or even too touchy-feely, but humor me. A vision board is something that people use as a success tool, and it works! It absolutely works! It’s taking the law of attraction to the next level. You are, in a sense, creating your future when you make your board.
How to make a vision board
You take pictures, quotes, small trinkets, seashells, whatever you want, and use them to help describe, show, and represent how you want to feel and what you want for your future. You can make a physical one by cutting out pictures and taping them to paper, or you can create a digital one on Canva.
I honestly love Canva, it’s so easy to use, and you can do almost anything with it to create stunning visuals. If your brain can see it, all swirly, with light teal and maybe a shadowed thingymajig, then you can probably make it in Canva! The best part is that it’s free! There is a paid option, but that’s if you’ll be using it a lot and like the convenience of some functionality options. (I use the pro version, it’s inexpensive for how much I do depend on it!)
Getting personal here, this is a shot of my original vision board. I uploaded a few of my own pictures and used some of there’s to highlight what I wanted. I don’t expect it to resonate with you, but it does to me, and that it what is important.
Canva has made it really easy to use, you just search for “mood board photo collage,” and it pops up a bunch of different professionally designed templates that you can use. They already look beautiful; you just need to make them yours! (I didn’t use a template when I made mine, as I didn’t know about the templates then, whoops.)
I have also used Canva to make party invitations (you e-send or they have printing services right within the platform, or take it to a printer). Or you could do Christmas cards, honestly whatever you want!
One cautionary tale with vision boards
Some people think that using a vision board, and bringing in the law of attraction will simply work on their own. You will get what you want if you think about it hard and often enough. Not true! You have to be willing to do the work to get you there! You need to put in the sweat equity towards your goal! Visualize yourself working toward your goal, not just achieving your goal (source). Your vision board should be a daily reminder of your goal and inspire feelings to motivate you to work hard towards that goal!
11. A simple & straightforward strategy to reaching your goals
I have wasted so much time & effort in my life by trying to do it all myself! It’s admirable, and I hate it. I respect that I’m not afraid of learning things from the ground up! I grew up on a farm; hard work has never bothered me.
Yet, I could have saved a lot of time and frustration if I had found something that could have helped me get to where I wanted to be a lot faster or a lot easier (sometimes both)! It’s the horrible cliche – work smarter, not harder.
So what do you do to work smarter right here, right now? You use the tools available! I have a Personal Core Value Free Guide that will help you define your own Personal Core Values. You probably already know what is important to you, but can you articulate that? When you put specific & meaningful words to something, it brings them upfront and with such clarity! It’s amazing how your priorities were ever foggy before!
When I first used this method (and then made the Personal Core Value Free Guide for you, it gave me permission to say ‘No” to things that weren’t moving me forward in the areas that are most important to me! It took away the question of “should I do this or should I do that,” and it took away the guilt of saying no to things that I really didn’t want to do. The weight was literally lifted off of my shoulders; it was so freeing!
I decided that I wanted to take it a step further because knowing my priorities was one thing, but how could I use this information to propel me further? One of my many obsessions is to-do Lists. They make my heart happy, and I get such satisfaction from crossing things off as I completed them! My to-do lists had sub-lists and action items and further bullet points! A slight mess would be putting it politely.
So I reorganized it all into the full Living Your Genuine Life by Your Personal Core Values Workbook. It takes everything 2-3 steps further by using your values to identifying goals that will move you forward to where you want to be! These goals are incredibly important to you because this is who you are at your deepest level!
The Workbook helps you identify roadblocks and gives space for the why’s and the how’s. So you can overcome obstacles that may keep you from reaching your goals! Remember, when you handwrite things down, it helps anchor this information in your brain, making you more likely to retain the information and ultimately reach your goal!
I am so incredibly proud of both the Free Guide and the full Workbook! As it’s given me specific, actionable steps to go precisely where I want to go and live the way I want to live, not just toiling day in and day out for a reason that I’m not quite sure about to get to something that kinda sounds right.
Now that we’ve talked about how to find goals that matter to you, given you a list of tools that can dramatically affect your chances of success, I want you to do one more thing. I want you to go back to your goals and double-check the origin of those goals.
Sometimes ideas get into our heads, and we just assume that they are good ideas, or maybe these ideas were taught to us when we were young and have just carried them forward without scrutiny. So lets just quickly check to see if you should dump any of your goals because, well, they suck.
The top 5 goals that you should dump!
I want this list to set you free from goals that aren’t worthy of your time or your heart. Because these kinds of goals just pull you down, they don’t make you happy in the long run, even though they may seem like a good idea at one point.
- Goals of comparison – Yes, your neighbor always looks perfect at your kids 7 am school bus pickup, and you… well… you kind of feel as put together as Rosanne Barr after an all-night bender. You “should” get up earlier and put on makeup and fit into cute clothes by the time the birds wake. F that! Getting up at 5 am to look pretty for strangers is no way to spend the wee hours of the am!
- Goals of obligation or guilt – You know what I’m talking about, so don’t even try to hide your face! Your Dad keeps bugging you about getting your kids into more sports, or how you should be a better parent. Ugh, no thanks. Doing something you don’t want to do for others will only make you resent them for asking/demanding it of you and resenting yourself for doing it.
- Goals of expectations of others – This goes for others’ expectations of you and your expectations of others. You cannot control the way others act or what they say or what they do. They should not try and control you either! Don’t let your Mom’s 1945 housewife expectations tell you how to clean your own home! (In turn, you may have to accept the fact that she won’t change.)
- Goals that don’t resonate with you – You have a good goal, but something isn’t clicking for you down in your gut. That’s fine; take it back to the drawing board. Don’t half-ass stuff, that’s lame. Take time to think (just don’t push it to the back burner for four years). Think about why this goal is on your list in the first place. Ask yourself why, then answer yourself, and repeat that four more times. Don’t settle for the first answer; dig deeper!
- Goals that you’ve had for the past few years – If you’ve had the same goal year after year (after year). You need to think about why you haven’t achieved it. Maybe it falls into one of the categories right above about bad goals? Perhaps you decide to pass this goal over for a year and come back to it, that’s fine here too! YET, if the reason you haven’t reached this goal is that you’re worried/scared about it, then I strongly urge you to make this THE YEAR that you face this, and go after it! More on this below…
That one goal that you cannot let go of!
Above, we talked about goals that you’ve had on repeat like a 90’s power ballad when you were in 10th grade (aka Aerosmith’s I Don’t Want to Miss a Thing). We talked about how you needed to let them go. Well, what if this goal is your thing? You know, the thing that you close your eyes and dream about every night? But you just haven’t done it for whatever reason.
- you’re scared of failing
- you’re scared of succeeding
- you’re afraid of what others will say or think
- you’re overwhelmed on where to start
- you’re petrified!
Be it getting a new job, moving across the country, breaking up with your SO or getting help with addiction, or whatever it may be. THIS IS YOUR YEAR! If you need help in getting out of your own way, then I want you to get a book.
You need a little bit of tough love, but not too tough. You need someone to shake you till your teeth rattle (just a tiny bit) and tell you to quit whining and go out and do it already! Well, Marie Forleo’s Everything is Figureoutable delivers!
She gets you to think, really think about potential life-altering questions. She challenges the way you think about things, shifting your mindset to her classic “everything is figureoutable” phrase because she genuinely believes that you can get through anything!
Everything Is Figureoutable. If you are stuck in a rut or struggling to find your path, then this book is absolutely for you! If you know that deep down, you’ve been using plain old excuses as a legitimate reason not to live your life on your own terms. THEN THIS BOOK IS FOR YOU!
If you are stuck in a rut or struggling to find your path, then this book is absolutely for you! If you know that deep down, you’ve been using plain old excuses as a legitimate reason not to live your life on your own terms. THEN THIS BOOK IS FOR YOU!
She goes over how to define your dream, to eliminating excuses, belief systems, motivation during a long haul, and a focus on progress, not perfection, and even rejection. Everyone who reads this book will close the back cover with at least one sentence burned into their brains (if not a few more).
Here’s the one that stuck out to me (I know I told you this one a few weeks ago, but it hit me so hard it bears repeating, again and again, if need be).
“All beliefs are a choice and choices can be changed.”
At the end of the day
We have enough things stacked against us; our slowing metabolism, our increase in tech obsession (ahem… IG stories at 11 pm). It just makes sense to give ourselves as much of an advantage as we possibly can!
That means getting the resources and tools to help you reach your goals! Trust me; you can achieve them; you just need to be strategic in how you go about it! Because your goals are worth the effort, your goals are worth the time. Your goals are worth you reaching out, no matter how far, to go out and grasp them and make them yours!
Next week in part six of Your Goal Setting Master Series, we’re get comfy with some amazing Mamas, who happen to keep a close eye on their finances! We’re talking to them about their money goals for 2020! Get out your #2 pencil, this is going to be good!