The secret formula on asking for (and getting) the best gift for Mom

The holidays are coming up, and you have a hard enough time thinking of what to buy for your family, let alone thinking of what you actually want! Well, I have got you covered! I have a secret formula that guarantees you will receive something that you actually want! Yes, ideas for the perfect gift for Moms can be unbelievably hard to come up with, especially for us money-minded Mamas! We cringe at price tags and say on repeat “I don’t need that!.” Yeah, but do you want it? Will it make you happy? That’s the million-dollar question! So let’s dive in on what to ask for this Christmas!

The best gift for mom

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Moms are natural givers

I personally have the hardest time thinking of what I want for my birthday or for Christmas. Sure, I want “things” like a nicely landscaped backyard, some cute clothes, a… I’m having a hard time even coming up with examples, HA! Geeze, that’s kind of comical! So thinking of the “best” gift for us moms is even harder!

Yeah, I want things but I don’t want to spend the money on just “things”, because I value every dollar that comes into our bank account, and I want to be sure I spend it wisely. So yeah, I want new clothes but I won’t buy them, and that’s not part of the formula (well, it might be for you). But I just want to explain why it’s so important to put some thought into your wish list. 

It’s hard for us to not only “take” things but even harder to “ask” for them as well. We feel a bit bad sometimes (at least I do) when I spend on something that I don’t deem necessary.

Feel good about asking for what you really want

With this formula, you know that you really truly want these things. These gifts will add value to your life and bring you joy. Not only immediate joy but lasting joy as well which can be elusive!

I can also feel good in that for my holiday shopping, I have saved money all year long in order to pay for things. None of the stress of scrambling to come up with the funds to pay for the gifts added on top of “what to give others”. I save $20 each week, starting January 1st. (I did stop for a few months as I went to the Chiropractor for an injury, so the money went to that instead). It might seem odd, but it totally works (for me), maybe another money-saving challenge would work for you? Check out the post below for some great challenges along with free printables of you to get started!

RELATED: 17 Money Saving Challenges to Supercharge Your Bank Account

Best gift for Mom formula:

So here it is, the formula to asking for and getting the perfect gift us Moms!

Something to make our body feel good
Remind us of the good times
Something we need but don’t want to buy
A guilty pleasure
Help us to reach her goals!

That’s it. Yes, you still have to put some thought into the actual “what” but framing it this way makes the process so much easier, more enjoyable and much less stressful! Don’t worry, I am going to give you some great examples on how to narrow it down.

Don’t worry, you don’t have to come up with ideas for each part of the formula, nor give a gift for each part either. But 1-2 gifts in these categories should have you covered!

Marie Kondo quote on sparking joy

1. Something to make our body feel good

Yes, this one is exactly as easy as it sounds, but don’t let that fool you as a cliche gift. Trust me, gifts like these are so desperately needed!

  • a massage/facial
  • a day spa package (hint: this is the best gift for moms!)
  • a massage membership (chiropractic massage)
  • a pedicure
  • a new haircut
  • an afternoon enjoying the outdoors – a scenic hike
  • a night at a hotel
  • yoga class package at a new studio

The price range for this is huge, it can be as inexpensive as you buying a local hiking guidebook and trail snacks and set her free on a sunny afternoon ($30). Or it can be more luxurious, like a day spa package ($400). Look at your fancy hotels for this service, some even include a gourmet lunch!

If you want to take better care of yourself (or you know your mom has mentioned it) you need a fitness tracker to help show you your progress! (PSA: If the mom in your life has never before expressed an interest in upping her fitness game, then do not, I repeat DO NOT get this for her. Your welcome.)

Fitbit Alta Smart Fitness Activity Tracker

  • The perfect fitness tracker for busy moms!
  • tracks steps, heart rate, sleep, and you can input goals and log your food!
  • Water Resistance: Alta is sweat, rain, splash proof

The very best thing I have ever done for my health was to invest in a GREAT water bottle! I have had so many crapy (but cheaper) water bottles that I can’t even count! These things are worth every single penny! They don’t sweat, keep your water cold FOREVER, and are easy to clean!

Hydro Flask Water Bottle

  • Stainless Steel
  • Vacuum Insulated
  • Non-toxic BPA-free plastics & food-grade stainless steel
  • Hot drinks up to 6 hours, and cold drinks up to 24 hours

2. Remind us of the good times

This is my favorite kind of present, as the emotions that it can bring out are so meaningful and impactful.  

A picturebook from Shutterfly of a recent vacation, or all the times you spent together cooking, or your kiddos yearly BTS pictures. These books start around $25 + shipping and go up from there, but there are ALWAYS coupons from Shutterfly, just google it and a zillion will pop up.

Did you know that your sense of smell can help you recall memories better than any other sense? I won’t bore you with all the science of glands and such but it’s very true. Smelling something can create an instant recall of an event or place.  (source)   (source)  

Think of how much money the perfume industry rakes in! It’s $48 Billion dollars globally. I Googled it. πŸ™‚

No, don’t ask for perfume, ask for a scent that you loooove. For example, whenever I am in an outdoor space and there are boxwood shrubs I am instantly transported back to my Grandmothers place. They were all over the front walkway, I can close my eyes and picture all the bushes in a neat little row. Now that she’s gone I get a bit teary thinking of how excited I was going up to the front door, with the scent heavy in the air. You can get a boxwood shrub for maybe $20 at Home Depot.

Or maybe you have a cherished family recipe. Maybe you ask for your husband or daughter to bake your Aunties famous apple pie a few times in the coming year. I bet you can almost smell the cinnamon now. Ingredients would be about $15, depending on how robust your pantry is.

Sparking a heartfelt memory is absolutely the best gift that you can give us Moms!

My official bid for the best gift for Mom!

What Every Disney Mom wants for Christmas

Here’s what I am going to ask for (yes, I am going to send my husband a link to this post πŸ˜‰ )

One of my favorite scents is the bar shower soap that is used at Walt Disney World hotels. Yup, my nerd flag is up and I am waving it proudly! If you have ever stayed at a WDW property you know that they give complimentary toiletries, as all hotels do. The scent of these H2O products is amazing! I smell it and can picture the beautiful bathroom that our hotel had, it was bright and crisp and the tile was cool on your feet. Then I start to remember all of the good times we had on our vacation. I can picture the sunset at the quiet pool, the afternoons in the lazy river at the pool, I can see my daughter’s face the first time she met Pooh Bear, and on and on. I LOVE Disney Parks!

You can buy these products straight from Disney, but they are very expensive for the size that you get. A total budget-savvy mom no-no! So Amazon is the next best option! Yes, these are the same scents used at WDW, just under their own label.

Sea Salt Shower Gel by H2O+ Beauty

  • light oceanside scent
  • free of parabens and oils
  • includes vitamin E & sea salt
  • 14.4 oz

Sea Salt Body Butter H2O+ Beauty

  • light oceanside scent
  • paraben-free, mineral oil free, and safe for all types of skin
  • rich almond butter deeply hydrates and moisturizes
  • 8 oz

Sea Salt Body Scrub by H2O+ Beauty

  • light oceanside scent
  • combination of almond oil and sea salts works to remove old, dry skin while moisturizing the new skin beneath it
  • 12 oz

Holiday Spending Plan

Your Guide to a Stress-Free Holiday Season!
– This covers all the 3 big holidays + a winter-themed holiday
– A budget planner for each holidays
– A handy list of categories to think about for each holiday
– Cash envelopes to help you save money and stay organized

3. Something we need but don’t want to buy

I don’t like spending money on boring/basic things. Like buying new tires for my car kills me. I hate it, but I buy them just the same. Because I’m an adult, a responsible adult. Ugh. Do you understand the feeling?

Purchases like this, that are on my to-do list, and some have been on there the longest time. It irks me to know that I am not moving forward on these things. Yet, I put it off day after day.

One of the best and most hated purchases were some new kitchen pans. As a new mom, I wanted to get rid of all the unnecessary chemicals that were in my house. I used Environmental Working Group’s app to buy new cleaners. (I could go on a full rant about the toxicity of Dreft baby detergent, but I won’t.) Point being that I wanted to be as clean as possible, without jumping off the deep end. (Oh, I bought BioKleen if you’re looking for safer laundry detergent.)

The Teflon on the pans made for easy nonstick cooking, but the dangers of cooking with polytetrafluoroethylene (PTFE) were becoming more and more well known. It had the chemical perfluorooctanoic acid (PFOA) in it, which has been proven to cause liver & kidney damage. (side note: all branded “Teflon” brand is now PTFE free since changes in 2013 but other pans still use it.)

Considering how much cooking we do as a family on these pans I definitely wanted a safer option. Yet most of the pans in stores didn’t specify their materials. So as a new mom, I Googled it, a lot. Like A LOT, I cringe at how long I spent researching safe pans that worked really well. Hours and hours, and yes, more hours went into this. Because every time I pulled out my old pans to make my daughter scrambled eggs I felt horrible about myself, why haven’t I bought new pans?! MOM GUILT!

I did find a brand that had a great reputation for using safe materials and that worked very well. I bought the pans in 2016, and to this day they work amazingly well! We use them 1-2 times a day, and the nonstickiness of them (is that a word?) is still amazing!

10″ Stone Earth Frying Pan by Ozeri

  • Utilizes a stone-derived coating from Germany that achieves non-stick perfection while remaining 100% free of APEO and PFOA, and the lesser-known chemicals NMP and NEP
  • Features a hardened scratch-resistant coating that is super easy to clean and has unprecedented nonstick performance

10″ Earth Frying Pan Lid in Tempered Glass

  • tempered glass for improved thermal performance
  • oven safe up to 390 F
  • steam pressure release valve
  • dishwasher safe

The best part is that when I bought them and started using them, I didn’t have this ugly and dread-filled feeling around me anymore. I was happy to cook her scrambled eggs with a bit of cheese melted on top. I was free of the Mom guilt. That’s the best feeling ever!

Probably not the best example of “sparking joy” in the traditional sense, but not having to see something that has been on my to-do list forever is absolutely the best gift for this mom that I could have received!

So if there’s something on your to-do list (or to buy list) and you hate seeing it on there, ask for someone else to do that thing for you as their gift to you! Like staining your back deck, going and getting your car tuned-up, researching new/better “xyz” item you need.  

Another example is that one year I asked my brother to build shelves in our garage for Xmas as a present to the family instead of gifts. My garage looks amazing, and I know it would have taken me FOREVER to get around to doing something about it if it wasn’t for him. Thanks big brother! 

4. A guilty pleasure

If You love Hallmark Christmas Movies then put #4 on your wish list!

So this can be something small and silly. Something that you squeal on the inside when you see it.

For me, being a budget-conscious Mom we cut cable a long time ago. A good move and I’m happy about it, but I kick myself every year when it gets to be this fall/winter season because that’s when the Hallmark channel busts out their 24/7 ridiculously sappy & stupid holiday movies! ARGGG! The regret! But shhh, don’t tell anyone that I watch them, because I might be a bit embarrassed because the movies really are horrible. Horribly amazing!

As a result of cutting cable, last year I tried turned to YouTube for it and I found a few that I liked but it took solid skills to find to real movies and the correct movies at that, then sometimes the quality was bad, or they cut off the top 8 inches of the entire movie. WTH?

In my home we do a “1st Present of Christmas” type thing (blame the Polar Express), at the end of Thanksgiving evening we gather in the living room and each person opens their first gift of the season. Yup, this is definitely on my list for best gifts for moms!

Hallmark Holiday Collection #3

  • The Town that Christmas Forgot
  • Naughty or Nice
  • It’s Christmas, Carol!
  • The Wishing Tree

There are so many of these Hallmark Movie Christmas DVD 4 pack collections! What’s great is that they are super inexpensive! Maybe around the price of two regular coffees so you could get a couple of them! Speaking of hot beverages, her Christmas movie binge wouldn’t be the same without some props!

This is My Hall-Mark Christmas Movie Watching Sherpa Blanket

  • perfect for cuddling up on the couch with movies!
  • 50 x 60
  • fleece option
  • fleece/sherpa option
  • woven option
  • machine washable

Watching Hallmark Christmas Movie Socks

  • choose from black, red, or white options

This Is My Hallmark Christmas Movies Watching Mug

  • can be personalized with her name & avatar
  • large 15 oz size!
  • dishwasher & microwave safe
  • be sure order ahead to give enough time for personalizing!

Land O Lakes Cocoa Classics Hot Cocoa Mix 11-Flavor Variety

  • 11 flavors, each being 1.25 oz of mix – like hazelnut, mint, Irish creme, and butterscotch and more!

5. Help us with our goals!

perfect gold desk accessories for her

Since I’m a finance blogger, and so many Moms come to me as being brand new to budgeting, I want to throw you some love! Budgeting sounds boring, I get it. Reconciling your monthly bills sounds about as fun as stubbing your toe.

So let’s make it a bit more “fun”, shall we?

Set up your space to be just what you want it to be! When I got a new desk space at home I definitely wanted it to be pretty and functional, AND not cost too much. Because let’s face it when you like your space and the tools you use, you don’t have to drag yourself to do it.

5 Piece Wire Gold Desk Organizer Set

  • Letter Sorter
  • Paper Tray
  • Pen Cup
  • Magazine File
  • Stationery Decor

Desk Accessory Organization Kit

  • stapler
  • tape holder
  • scissors
  • mouse pad
  • bunder clips
  • pens

Decorative Gold Foil File Folders

  • perfect for the organizer at heart!
  • set of 12
  • gold foil
  • made of heavyweight sturdy material

Pens Gold Pen Set 6 Piece Set

  • very highly rated!
  • multiple finishes & color ink options

Classic Charm Hard Cover Journal 

  • “Happy Thoughts” embellished on the cover with gold foil
  • 160 pages
  • perfectly sized to carry along!

Wooden Block Stand with Gold Stamped Inspirational Cards

  • 12 inspirational cards, one for each month
  • ships in a beautiful box with gold embossing
  • after the year is over this is perfect to hold your favorite photo!

Now please don’t mistake me and think that I’m suggesting you need all (or any) of these items. I just know a peaceful and beautiful environment makes doing things a lot easier! And after you do your monthly bill paying, it’s time to…

treat yo’self!

Yes, sometimes the best gift for Mom is a fat glass of wine! Stereotypical, yes. Do we care? No! Cheers!

Luxury Bath Salts Bundle

  • a 2lb bag of each scent – about 6-8 baths of each scent
  • Sleep Lavender, California Breeze, Bubble Fun Foaming Bath Salts

At the end of the day 

You want the holidays to be as stress-free as possible, and that’s a big ask for this time of year I know. So, think of how you need support to be the happiest, calmer, and more confident YOU! Overall, know that the best gift for us Moms are ones that leave lasting joy, remind ourselves of good times, and bring us closer to our goals and to our families.

So what will you be asking for? Let us know in the comments below to help inspire us all to think outside the traditional “present” box!

Holiday Spending Plan

Your Guide to a Stress-Free Holiday Season!
– This covers all the 3 big holidays + a winter-themed holiday
– A budget planner for each holidays
– A handy list of categories to think about for each holiday
– Cash envelopes to help you save money and stay organized

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